the inside space<\/a> here in Columbus. I\u2019ll link to both her and Eve in my show notes. Anyway, Dr. Gabby says that working with her families is like a dance where she is participating in the experience with her clients, trusting them to show her what they need. She observes and listens and brings her expertise in choosing how to respond. I totally get what she means here. We meet our clients wherever they are at, we trust who they are in the moment and are curious about how they will show us what they need. <\/p>\n<\/p>\n
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We don\u2019t see our clients as broken. That\u2019s not helpful and it\u2019s not true. We all have specific challenges but there isn\u2019t a perfect version of ourselves or of our children that we need to chase. Perfection is not the goal. Right here, in this moment, you are who you are. Your child is who they are. That\u2019s enough and it\u2019s always the right place to start.<\/p>\n
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I think about this because I can remember introducing my newborn son to a relative who gazed into his eyes and said, \u201cIt\u2019s a shame that someone so perfect is going to be messed up by the world.\u201d My gosh, I was devastated. And that\u2019s how I parented for the first few years, from this place of fear. Everything felt like a threat to his perfection and I felt like I was in a losing battle to protect him from harm. I know that some of you are having that experience, too.<\/p>\n
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Let me tell you, now that my kids are grown I see how wrong I was and how much that point of view caused me unnecessary sorrow and insecurity. We are meant to experience the world and we are built to withstand it especially when we have the loving support of committed, attentive and attuned parents. <\/p>\n
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None of us are projects to be fixed or perfected; we are here to grow, learn, and discover.<\/p>\n
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One of the ways I approach anxious kids is to talk about the great adventure that is life. We talk about their heroes \u2014 fictional or not \u2014 and how those heroes go through difficult times. That\u2019s what makes them heroes, right? I tell those kids, This is your adventure tale. You are facing dragons. You will have stories of survival to tell and to inspire people. It\u2019s hard work. That\u2019s why we write books about it.<\/p>\n
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If you are parenting an anxious child know that you are writing your own story. Parenting this child at this time is part of it. I am here to help you with the mind part, the relationship part. I am here to address the family systems part. There are other wonderful practitioners who can be a part of your journey, too. <\/p>\n
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If I had my way, I\u2019d assign every family a whole team of supporters, and cheerleaders, and educators, and service providers. But you only need to start with one. Just start at the start that is most accessible to you and through that particular path, you will find other helpers, too. Remember, no silver bullets but with those people who come alongside you, you \u2014 and your child \u2014 can overcome anything.<\/p>
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